|And truthfully I would rather have a divorce from these people than a break up. They were very dear to us even if the last couple months were anything but joyous. That's what happens in long term intense relationships. It get's intense. It gets mean.
In our anger we search for "why." We blame. Just like a divorce we convince ourselves that we were right and they were wrong. We point to any number of reasons for why. Based on rumor and partial information we piece together what happened, and more times than not, we are wrong.
The truth is people grow apart. Priorities change. Common enemies change. We change.
But those that stayed continue to do what we do.